Well, we are deep in the throes of the holiday season, and one thing that can make this time of year more stressful is financial stress. So, in the spirit of giving, and saving some money, allow me to reccommend a simple, free gift that your loved one will appreciate and enjoy.
As you may know, the foundations of my Back Togetherprogram are based on the couples-based approach to finding relief from pain. For the holiday season, what could make your loved one feel more appreciated and loved than a nice, slow relaxing massage (perhaps even followed by some nice nookie….)
Even if you don’t know much about massage, you likely have some idea of the kinds of touch that will make your partner feel relaxed. For this to be an effective gift, and not a cheap out- plan on spending some time. An hour or so would be nice. You don’t need to, but you can pick up some body lotion or scented oil to make the experience a little more special. My favorite low-cost additions are some candles throughout the room, as well as some soft music (anything by Ella Fitzgerald will work- but that’s just me.)
Start with your partner’s feet- gently massage them out, and slowly work your way up their thighs, and then to their lower back. Gentle pressure is all that is needed to help your partner realx. Go over their whole spine, avoiding the center of their spine- and never pressing on the small bumps or spinous processes in the middle.
A gentle scalp massage, working down towards the temples will just melt the stress away.
Give this a try. I’ve never met ANYONE who didn’t appreciate this kind, romantic gesture.
Be well,
Andy
Covent Garden at Christmas Time
